I was parking on Friday in my neighborhood and marveled at how I always seem to get a spot without much searching. And yet on the street where I park there is almost always only one spot left. Do I just have good parking luck? I don’t think so. It’s just that when I park I only need to find one spot. There only needs to be one person who has recently left theirs. I have a medium-sized car and live in a neighborhood where parking is, at least, a possibility. Odds are, in the two or three always-almost-full streets I go down, one will indeed be almost full and not full, and I will find my spot.
There are so many things in life like this, and so many ways to get discouraged when you look at the odds, when you try and try, and it seems like finding even one is impossible. But still, you only need one of them.
An agent, for example. You only need one person to really love your manuscript enough to want to sell it. And then you only need one editor to love it enough to convince all the people at the publishing house that it’s worth taking a risk on. For each book, you only need one book deal (as much as we all may dream of being sold at auction). From Suzanne Collins to J.K. Rowling to many, many more, every literary success has had people in their lives and careers that believe in them–and people that weren’t willing to take the risk.
Writing is difficult, yes, and there is absolutely no guarantee of success (though writing, in and of itself, is it’s own kind of success) but lately, when I get discouraged, I find it’s better to remind myself that I don’t need to convince everyone I meet that my work is worthwhile. Just like I don’t need to get offered every job in the world. And I don’t need to find ten affordable apartments in New York or San Francisco. Just one.
Just like finding a parking spot, falling in love, making friends and almost everything in life, there is so much that you can’t control or guarantee. But when I remind myself that every great success is made up of small victories–and a series of ones–it makes everything challenging seem a little bit more manageable.
Oh, and if that doesn’t work, looking at puppies usually does.